What people like and admire about me
- Always thoughtful and sensitive to how other people are feeling
- Lover of life
- Generous – of your time, attention and support
- Genuine empathy and a knack for putting people at ease
What is important to me
- My daughter Eleanor and my wife Sam are so very important to me, I am in awe watching Eleanor grow and learn new things every day. It is important to me to spend as much time as possible with Eleanor and Sam.
- I have a large family and we are very close. I love getting together with family and creating memories, it is important that I can catch up with my extended family at least each month.
- Emily, Michelle and Helen, my friends and colleagues provide me with love and support, they challenge me to be at my best each day.
- Close relationships are of the utmost importance to me and they are central in the decisions that I make each day!
- Being active has always been a passion of mine, sport of some variety has been part of my life for as long as I can remember. I love the social aspect but it also makes me feel good about myself, favourites at the moment include playing football and cycling.
- Kindness, empathy and consideration are most important in my interactions with others. I make a conscious effort to hear others’ contributions and attempt to demonstrate transparency through my actions and words.
How best to support me...
- Know that when I have a lot on my plate, I can feel overwhelmed and show this by withdrawing from people and commitments. It helps me to talk about managing my workload. A message to check in with me and offer five minutes of your time if you notice this, can really help.
- If you are not happy with something I have said or done, please speak to me about it, either face to face or via an email or message. I hate to let people down.
- I can often tell myself untruths about how others are feeling, my mind can get carried away and make me feel increasingly anxious, please be transparent with me, even if the message is difficult to deliver so we can move to a place of understanding.
- Know that I find being assertive a challenge, I think I will get it wrong and upset people. If you notice I am disengaged or I don’t seem present during a conversation, check in with me, a direct message works best, it allows me time to articulate how I am feeling.
- I can’t always find the vocabulary to articulate what I want to say when I want to say it. Please give me the opportunity and time to process what is in my head, ask me to explain more if you don’t understand. Please don’t speak for me.